Raising kids is indeed a serious business. To identify and nurture a unique talent or skill in your kids, you enroll them in classes. And you also plunge them into technology and learning programs. But sometimes, in your drive to help kids succeed, you skip over the thing that they can achieve: Islamic manners.
Why You Should Teach Islamic Manners to Your Kids?
Islam is a comprehensive way of life. And when it permeates every aspect of our life, it provides customs (Adaab) to spend the whole life. Adab is an Arabic term that denotes a habit, an etiquette, a manner of conduct. So adaab of Islam means the Islamic manners derived from the teachings and instructions of Prophet Muhammad (PBUH). If you want to do the right thing, you should work on a few real-life advice, time-tested tips, and lessons learned from the life of our Prophet (PBUH).
Trust me: Islamic manners will open more doors for your kids than all other lessons combined. Your kid can acquire the basics that, with daily application, will last a lifetime. It is never too soon to start or too late to catch up.
Your kids should adopt Islamic manners because they are different from other cultures. They’re derived from the two main sources: the Quran and the Prophet’s deeds, words, and instructions. The two contain the principles needed to settle the issues arising in human societies of all ages.
Islam holds principles and values, attitudes, customs, and manners in all reaches of human concern and relationship. In simple words: To be a Muslim is to act in a proper human manner. It’s in contrast to the way that other creatures (in accord with their nature) conduct themselves.
What Makes an Ideal Human Personality in Islam?
The ideal of human personality rests on the concept of virtuous deeds. The term extends beyond the holy domain and covers all human acts. The life of our Prophet (PBUH) tells us to:
- Act justly between two people
- Help load his belongings
- Speak good words
- Remove nuisances from paths or roads
- Give food and water to stray dogs and cats
- Be forward in greeting others
- Visit relatives
This way, the most inclusive characteristics of the ideal Muslim are humility, modesty, and simplicity. Pride and arrogance in any aspect of conduct are unacceptable. Allah hates those “who take pride in their color, caste, nationality, level of worship, and jobs.” Indeed, no individual is superior to another except in his degree of faith and contribution to good deeds.
Islamic manners begin by setting examples for kids. For example, as a parent, you should teach your kids:
- Be prompt to thank a person saying, may God reward you well. It’s because our Prophet (PBUH) said, “He who does not thank people does not thank God.”
- Don’t try to restrain a sneeze, which is a blessing from God. When you sneeze, you should say, al-hamdu lillah (“Praise be to God”).
- Treat animals with mercy and kindness
- Use the right foot and hand in all positive actions, such as eating, drinking, holding the Quran, and shaking hands. The point here is to distinguish even by your bodily gestures which things are good and not good.
Develop Islamic Manners in Your Kids!
Among the thousands of expenses of raising your kids, the development of Islamic manners is the least costly. In fact, it costs nothing, relatively. And the bonus is that teaching Adaab to your kids is the one investment you can make with guaranteed returns.
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